Grief Didn’t Follow the Rules

When grief arrived in my life, it didn’t come in neat, linear stages.

I didn’t move through denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance in some predictable order.

Instead, it unraveled me.

It was everywhere—an all-consuming presence that held me inside of it.

It wasn’t a series of emotions to process and complete.

It was more like being inside a blender—where everything existed at once.

The sorrow, the longing, the weight of what was lost, the disorientation of what was becoming.

But inside of it, something else was there too.

The veil was thin. I was closer to spirit.

There was a presence within it, something unseen and palpable.

I, of course, had to rewrite the stages of grief for others so they too would know that their grief won’t follow some linear stage.

Grief is something that some of us will never be free from—but honestly, after integrating and walking through it the way I have, I don’t want it to go anywhere.

It keeps me close to my heart. It reminds me of something unspoken, a deep felt sense, almost of belonging.

Walking with grace through grief is a sacred alchemy—one that softens the edges and becomes the invisible helping spirit walking with you.

I will be facilitating a live ceremonial gathering @luminaewellness —a safe and sacred space to sit with grief in a way most of us were never taught to.

We will welcome in the spirit of Grace, sit in ceremony, honor the many forms of grief, and allow its wisdom to unfold.

Through ritual, guided practice, and embodied inquiry, we will tend to what is present, listen deeply, and meet grief with reverence instead of resistance.

Grief is not a problem to be solved, but a sacred passage to walk—with the support of community, ritual, and the unseen helping spirits that walk with us.

If you feel the quiet pull, you are invited.

You don’t have to do this alone.